Society’s messaging to us on living our best lives involve schizophrenic signals.

The Gentle Approach

• You are enough
• Be Kind to yourself
• Pause, don’t busy yourself
• You are doing your best
• Don’t be too hard on yourself
• Enjoy the everyday mundane and routine. Romanticise it.
• Forget hustle culture

The Tough Love Approach

• You are too lazy or unbothered to live a happier life
• You are leading a mediocre life because you are lazy
• You have so much potential that you’re not living up to
• You’re too caught up in the mundane, trivial tasks to make a meaningful life
• You’re not committed enough to making the change you need
• Hustle harder

Which do you adopt? And which would suit you better?  

Can you still achieve your best life using the Gentle Approach?