How can you tell?

Your Reason

Being Kind: Doing it just because you truly care and want to

People-pleasing: Doing it for some external validation or recognition or approval

Your Well-Being

Being Kind: Not doing it at the expense of your wellbeing

People-pleasing: It may involve some kind of prioritising other people’s needs over yours

Your Expectations

Being Kind: No expectation of reciprocity

People-pleasing: Might expect some kind of quid pro quo

How to tell broadly

Do you feel resentful or frustrated that you’re doing the act of service?

Are you doing it just to make the other person happy even though you don’t feel like doing it?

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