Making Friends as an Adult

Open the doors to greater personal satisfaction and professional opportunities
Diversify your social circle
Expand your friend group
Imagine having the communication skills to engage meaningfully with interesting people you’ve just met while still staying true to being yourself
You don’t have to mimic or copy a style or pretend to say things you don’t care about

What if you could be yourself and attract the people you are drawn to?

My course helps people become confident communicators by learning how to engage authentically with people so that they can form and maintain better relationships.

What is your attitude towards socialising?

Are you opting out of making new connections?
Do you find it tiresome to make new friends?
Do you think you’re too old to make new friends?
Is your version of connecting with friends sending Instagram memes?

Make new friends, but keep the old; Those are silver, these are gold. New-made friendships, like new wine, Age will mellow and refine. – Joseph Parry, Welsh composer and musician

Why should you consider making new friends?

Research shows strong social ties can give you these physical benefits

Emotional support: enhanced mental health through lower levels of stress
Cognitive Stimulation: New friendships keep our minds active and engaged
Physical health: Reduced blood pressure, heart rate and stress hormones

Social Benefits

Expanded perspectives: promotes learning
Fosters a sense of meaning and purpose in life
Diverse social circles can open doors to personal and professional opportunities

Does this include some version of you?

You’re not a bad person nor are you boring, but why do you feel like your social circle has been shrinking as the years go by?

You still have your friends but with age comes increased responsibilities like household management, children, spouse, elderly parents, exercise, new grown up hobbies like pickleball and the new lofty ambition of self-care (whatever that means).

If your version of self-care includes opening your mind to new perspectives beyond getting them from publications and social media, that could include new people.

And now the question begs, where are these new people?

Do you even want to meet new people?

What if they suck? What if they’re tedious? What if they’re plain old boring?

Well, you’re forgetting your own free will.

If you meet someone who checks one or all of the traits listed, feel free to decline their invitation to pickleball.

Rewind to younger you, think back to the times when you were fresh, untainted by society, less cynical about people and just open to what life brings.

Met a friend of a colleague? You’ve exchanged numbers within 10 minutes of meeting and are already planning a lunch in the CBD next week.

Looking to date? A group dinner with 5 new friends? You’re there.

Looking for new job opportunities? That person in the elevator who gets off at the floor you want to be on. A smile flashed and a coffee date made in under 5 minutes of small talk.

If you were ever like that person, we should chat.

If you are still that person, good for you.

If you’ve been hiding some parts of that person, read on.

If you want to be that person described, read on.

Thinking back, isn’t the start of friendships always the most fun? Just see how much fun Jim Carey had in the movie “YES MAN”, where he said yes with gusto and maintained an open mind and spirit to life.

Who is this course for?

This is for people who want to break out of their cycle of comfort and open themselves to new connections and experiences.

This is for people who find the task of making and keeping new friendships tedious but want the fringe benefits of them in the form of new adventures, someone to check out the new places with and learning about different worldviews and possible interesting opportunities.

This is for people who are curious and interested in meeting different people in different seasons of their life.

There’s a difference between solitude and loneliness. – Maggie Smith, Actress

We are living in dystopia, in a world that is dominated by technology and disconnect, alienation, loneliness, and dysfunction. – Steven Wilson, Musician

Your current social circle isn’t fueling, inspiring you in the ways that you need
You are afraid that if you continue on this trajectory, your earlier in life friends may be the only friends you’ll have
You have evolved as a person and are in a different life season from your mainstay friends
You are open to meeting new people but aren’t sure how to connect with them
You enjoy learning new perspectives but can’t find new people that you vibe with
You want to connect better with your work colleagues
You have inertia in making the first move
You are stuck in your comfort zone of home and work (repeat)

About Me

I’m Siyun, a pop culture loving former YES MAN. I used to be Jim Carrey in YES MAN and now I’m Jim Carrey in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

I miss the exuberance and openness in which I’ve lived my 20s. With age and the pandemic, I’ve grown to enjoy my solitude. Hermit life suits me.

The quiet introspection allowed me to take stock of what I enjoy doing. One of which is helping and supporting people and learning about mindfulness practices to understand the many thoughts we subject ourselves to daily.

I’m a certified Associate Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation. I enjoy learning about what makes people who they are and their beliefs.

Being a YES MAN opens doors and as I grew older, my discernment of people and experiences also grew.

I’ve decided to develop this course as I see so much value in relationships. They can add much needed zest in the form of novelty and new perspectives. This is for people who consider themselves stuck in a rut and have inertia in being open again to new people.

I maintain a few close friendships with people I’ve known in every season of my life.

I learned that it doesn’t matter whether you’re an introvert or extrovert or ambivert. I endeavor to deliver a digestible, humorous and useful guide for you to develop the skills and confidence to make friends with whoever intrigues you, so that you can grow in wisdom, experiences and opportunities.

Imagine This

Your growth mindset and adventurous heart is satisfied by the number of new experiences you’ve had in the past quarter.

Just 2 weeks ago, your new gym buddy invited you to their home barbeque where you met a fellow pop culture friend and you started a podcast together.

Yesterday, a person you met at a neighbourhood block party shared that they are working for a company that you’ve just applied to via a LinkedIn job listing.

You bonded with a fellow Jane Austen fan at an event at your local library and she told you about an experiential Austenland in the UK and now you’re making plans for an impromptu trip that you’re really excited about.

Introducing the course…

Stay You while you Meet New

Step-by-Step video training to take you from reluctant, comfort zone residing, observer of life to participant of your own selective adventures with new people you actually like to spend time with in 5 fun and digestible modules.

This is actually a course you’ll look forward to completing and apply.

Can’t AI help me make friends?

Yes, I know that AI is beyond useful.

Need to ace an interview? Need to come up with a presentation?

Need to come up with phrases on what to say to someone new?

Yes, you can get all that from any LLM.

What if you wanted a bit (maybe all of you) captured in the essence of your communication?

You and your values and your preferences conveyed, would the LLM know how?

I guess what I’m saying is that if you want to rely on your own self to communicate confidently and with nuance and wit that only you possess, then this course is for you.

This is about learning yourself, others and learning how to decipher what works for you and what doesn’t.

How to open your mind, ask the right questions to get you answers that will tell you more about the other person you are learning about.

If the vibes match, then how you would continue to keep the vibes high and fun.

It goes transactional queries.

It goes beyond superficial Hi’s and Bye’s.

It goes beyond feeling obliged to go to something you don’t feel like going to.

It’s about knowing yourself as you learn to communicate your needs and better understand others.

The goal is better and more meaningful connections that mean something to both parties while honouring your respective values.

You’ll learn…

The roots of miscommunication
How it’s the little things that make big waves
How to read what people aren’t saying

Bonus Module: Your Communication Style & Intentions

Module 1: Understanding Yourself and Your Social Mental Barriers

Module 2: The Art of Conversation – beyond Small Talk

Module 3: The Meaningful Expansion of your Social Circle

Module 4: The South Side – When Things go Wrong

What will you receive:

5 powerful, on-demand video training modules
30 actionable, daily exercises to instantly boost your confidence
The ability to work at your own pace – the training is yours to keep for life

For the Price of $ 200

You get a Bonus 60 minutes communication coaching session worth S$ 120

What people are saying

I was so stuck in my routine and playing it safe. The covid years made me really reluctant to go and meet new people. Going through this super fun course has made me a more confident person when meeting new people.

— Lisa Tang

I’m a naturally friendly person but I couldn’t seem to find like-minded friends who were compatible with me in my current life season. This course gave me a new perspective on how I can identify my people more easily. It’s so great to have a group of friends that are interesting, diverse and dynamic at this stage in my life.

— Wendy Lee

With this knowledge, you might be thinking…

The saying, “It’s who you know” holds so much truth

An in-person warm connect is so much better than a third degree Linkedin connection?

People really give opportunities to people they like and know

You have saved so much time learning from this set of digestible and applicable actionable items

Your self-limiting beliefs about socialising were really limiting you

Having a good balance of socialising makes your me-time more worthwhile

Not putting yourself out there is a conscious choice and not due to your abilities

How freeing it will feel when you can walk into any room and confidently make conversation

Scripting Life

let’s keep things fun.

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